Meditation Styles for Personal Development

"At the moment of waking up, before getting out of bed, get in touch with your breath, feel the various sensations in your body, not any thoughts and feeling that maybe present, let mindfulness touch this moment. Can you feel your breath? Can you perceive the dawning of each in breath? Can you enjoy the feeling of the breath freely entering your body in this moment?" "Breathe in I smile, breathe out I calm my body, dwelling in the present moment, it is a wonderful moment."

Thich Nhat Hanh

Many styles of meditation practice exist today. They generally involve focusing on energy centers in the body, concentrating on an image, chanting, or breathing exercises. Regardless of the style, they all share a common goal – to silence thought. When thought ceases a connection to the world of light, wisdom and pure consciousness occurs.

In the last decade meditation has become an important, although still minor, healing modality used by psychotherapists and rehabilitation institutions. It is being studied at the world’s largest universities. Science is finally confirming what was known to yogis for millennia: meditation helps us to heal emotionally, has a calming effect on our nerves, balances blood pressure, has excellent stress reduction properties, helps us to relax and to control pain. But whatever the ‘worldly’ benefits of meditation, its most important application is spiritual growth, which is impossible without contemplative practice.

The term "meditation" is often used both to denote the process or technique of meditation, as well as the state "elicited" by meditation practice. Usually during meditation there is concentration on a particular object or idea, such as a flower, a candle flame, a sound, a word (mantra), an image of a deity, or the act of breathing.

The state "elicited" by meditation depends on the nature of the person, on the method of meditation and on the experience of the meditator. Relaxation and the experience of inner peace, an improvement in relationships with relatives and friends, as well as an increase in the ability to concentrate and a clarification of the reasoning faculty, are natural signs that the practice of meditation is working. So with so many different types of meditation how is one to pick the right one? Let us examine some different types of meditation starting with Outer Path Meditation.

There is yoga meditation, holistic meditation for health, and Divine Light meditation. In Asia there is Confucian, Taoist, and Hindu forms of meditation. All these types of practices are Outer Path Meditation. This type of practice is attached to an object, or state of being. The outcome that is desired is a good feeling or feeling of tranquility. However, as with all things, states of being are in constant flux. And once the desired affect wears off or is more difficult to attain the individual becomes less enchanted with the practice. In the practice of this meditation one creates some happiness, but once this is achieved there is also its counterbalance unhappiness. This will always happen when your practice is based on an object or a feeling that you are attached too. When the person looses the object, or cannot keep it, they will loose their feelings of happiness as well. Meditation that is attached to some object or idea is called Outer Path Meditation.


Another form meditation is Common People’s Meditation this is any method of meditation that is used to improve performance. People who do this meditation are looking to get something. It is sometimes called concentration meditation. There are people who do meditation as part of their marital arts practice. Thinking ‘if I do this in this manner I will obtain greater results.’ It is also a popular method to teach writing, drawing, and painting. Some people use this type of meditation as they work with their therapist. Some use it to relieve mental and physical stress. All of these activities can be helped with the use of this form of meditation, but it cannot help you completely attain your true nature. The reasoning behind this statement is because performance meditation has its concentration on the I, me, my states of being. This is not the way to become free of suffering. That is because, by its very nature, want-something meditation always makes subject and object, good and bad. If you practice with this state of mind you are practicing Common People’s Meditation.

Mahayana Meditation is based on the six fundamental insights of Mahayana teachings: insight into the existence and nonexistence of the Dharmas; insight into the nature of form and emptiness; insight into existence and the Middle Way; insight into the nature of phenomena; insight into the interpenetration of all phenomena; and insight which sees that phenomena themselves are the Absolute. The practice of these six insights can be expressed by the teaching of the Avatamsaka-sutra: "If you wish to thoroughly understand all the Buddha of the past, present, and future, then you should view the nature of the whole universe as being created by the mind alone."

"Meditation brings wisdom; lack of meditation leaves ignorance. Know well what leads you forward and what holds you back, and choose the path that leads to wisdom."

Buddha

Mindfulness is another form of meditation. It is meditation in action, and it is how we integrate meditation into all aspects of our daily lives until our whole life itself has become meditation. It is based on the Buddhist principle that whatever you focus on, you become. Buddhist believe that the mind is fluid. Whatever thought forms you hold in your mind will determine its shape.

"Do you think that you can clear your mind by sitting constantly in silent meditation? This makes your mind narrow, not clear. Integral awareness is fluid and adaptable, present in all places and at all times. That is true meditation… The Tao is clear and simple, and it doesn’t avoid the world."

Lao Tzu (c.604-531 B.C.E) from The Hua Hu Ching, (52)Chakra Meditation involves concentration on energy centers that are found in the astral (subtle-physical) body. These energy centers are located along a nonphysical energy tube called the sushumna. The sushumna in the astral body corresponds to the spinal column in the physical body, starting at the base of the spine and ending at the ‘third eye,’ between the eyebrows and a little above. Seven primary chakras are found at different points along the sushumna. Chi (energy) sits at the base of the spine in the first chakra.

During chakra meditation, chi is pulled from the first chakra up through the sushumna to the third eye. The desired affect of chakra meditation is to reach a point called Samadhi, or an enlightened state of being. Once a person has reached Samadhi a number of time the practitioner is well on their way to becoming enlightenment itself. When first learning this form of meditation it is best to focus at least 5 minutes on each chakra. The more advanced you become the longer you can stay at each point.

"It is not the number of books you read, nor the variety of sermons you hear, nor the amount of religious conversation in which you mix, but it is the frequency and earnestness with which you meditate on these things till the truth in them becomes your own and part of your being, that ensures your growth."


Frederick William Robertson (1816-1883) English American clergyman


The last mediation that I will discuss is Mantra meditation. Mantras were sacred words or phrases which, when repeated in meditation, bring the individual into a higher state of consciousness. The sounds that are produced during mantra meditation are a form of energy, which creates a connection to the worlds of light and spirituality. You can chant a mantra our loud, in a whisper, or just mentally let it vibrate within your mind. Perhaps the most famous mantra is OM MANI PADME HUM which translates as "the jewel in the heart of the lotus" or "Enlightenment is within everything." Chanting a mantra repeatedly for the duration of your meditation session will, over time, develop your abilities of meditation and concentration.


In closing, meditation is a powerful tool, one that not only provides us the opportunity to view life more closely, but also to slow it down and return to center. It helps us to remember what is really important, understanding our true calling in life. Through regular and persistent meditation we gradually become calm, centered and eventually we become free.


"When we talk about gaining the perfect wisdom of Buddha, we should not think that we need to create qualities in ourselves that are not there already, and acquire them from somewhere outside of us. Rather, we should see perfect Buddha wisdom as a potential that is being realized.

--H.H. The Dali Lama from "The Four Noble Truths" (Thorsons 1977)

The Soul Mate Fallacy: Deconstructing the Relationship Myth

The Soul Mate Fallacy

Deconstructing the Relationship Myth 

"The purpose of relationship is not to have another who might complete you, but to have another with whom you might share your completeness."   Neale Donald Walsch

There are many different theories of how we became to be in our form having thoughts, needs, and desires. Why we are so diverse and why we seem to be so fixated on the idea of having one person complete us to the point where we need them in order to have a feeling of wholeness. Many times I have spoken to clients who just want to know who their soul mate is and when can they find happiness. Having been a reader since 1986 I have seen a lot of lives absolutely destroyed based on either not finding their one single person, or finding someone whom they feel is their soul mate, but just does not respond no matter what they do. I knew that the phrase soul mate was created back in the 1970's, but I really was more interested in finding out who was responsible for so much grief and misconception about relationships.

It starts far back in the time of Plato when he wrote Symposium. Speaking in the voice of Aristophanes he attempted to explain human sexuality as an intervention by Zeus. In this allegorical tale he told of multi-limbed creatures that were similar to humans, and explained why people in love felt “whole” when they met their ideal mate. Things were not as they are now beings used to be connected to another body. There were three types of beings who were like spherical creatures that wheeled around by their hands and feet doing what appear to be cartwheels. There were three different types of these creatures, or humans: two males, two females, or those who were androgynous, both male and female. Zeus had decided that these creatures were powerful, and that if they ever decided to get upset at the gods, they might be able to take over full power over everything. This idea came to fruition when the beings had tried to climb to the summit of heaven and cause war against the gods.

Zues decided that although he liked being worshiped and adored, he needed to put things on a more even keel. So he split the beings into separate persons, and created distraction among them so that they would take their minds off conquering heaven and concentrate on seeking out their other halves the one(s) that they were born with to live out their lives.

More recently, some have attempted to further “prove” the concept of a single “soul mate” by stating that the penultimate authority, Edgar Cayce, mentioned it in his prophecies. I am an admirer of the “sleeping prophet” who was one of the most successful psychics and medical intuitive in the United States, but I need to add that although he did skirt close to the subject, what he actually did say, many times was that there was not just one person who was perfect match. There were many relationship possibilities for each person.

When you meet someone who you feel like you have known before, but can’t place from where they are part of your soul experience. Your soul contains your entire memory of life experiences; however your present cognitive memory will not normally recall these memories.

These people you come into contact with were you feel this instant response in your soul have traveled with you in some aspect in past lives. Have you ever seen someone and right off you wanted to be by their side? This person has had a soul experience with you in the past. Also, it works the other way if you have seen someone and on sight decided you needed to leave they too have had a life experience with you. So as you can see the perceptions can be either positive or negative. What you do about these situations is based on your intuition or soul response. The whole reason why we are on the planet is to learn from each other. Edgar Cayce believed that we were to have both positive and negative experiences in order for the soul to grow and fully understand what it is to be human.

Helen Fisher PhD, and inspiration of Match. Com, studied thousands of couples during the 70's her focus was based on how people became interested in each other, and what made the relationship work or fall apart in the end. She wrote a book called Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love. In this study she discussed 3 major reasons why there is such a strong drive to have physical connections. Each one of these reasoning's are connected to the brain for both sexual satisfaction, and in some cases the drive to reproduce. They are as follows: Lust: the strong physical desire to have sex with somebody, usually without associated feelings of love or affection, Attraction: a quality or feature that attracts somebody and, Attachment: an emotional bond or tie to somebody or something. Even in 2010 she is regarded as a prominent voice with regard to the human condition as it relates to relationships.

It is clear that any one of these reasoning's could start a relationship, but to keep a relationship moving into a long term lasting thing there is more required. Lust generally throws both partners into a bond that is purely physical, and rarely if ever broadens into anything more than just a short fling. If both individuals understand that this is simply a short sided encounter they have no delusions that it will turn into anything more, and allow it to begin and end without developing emotional attachments. Relationships that are built on attraction have more influence in how a person feels about their selves, and what they feel they deserve in a partner.

There are at times very strong pre-existing emotional ties to their viewpoints much of which is based on what they have viewed in their homes as juveniles, and later as teens. If a couple comes together based on similar experiences, and connect on an emotional level then there is a good chance that this relationship has a solid basis for a lasting relationship once they have decided if they are physically compatible as well, as emotionally connected. Finally, when a person becomes attached to someone it can either be the start of a wonderful fulfilled relationship, or one of extreme obsession. Attachment is needed to complete a pair bond it is necessary for both people to feel like they are loved completely. This healthy ideal is based on compassion, and a deep desire to see each other succeed in all areas of their lives. Those blessed with this bond can go beyond the physical needs, and experience a love that is boundless. However, being involved in an incomplete pairing can lead to feelings of despair, anxiety, detachment and in some instances suicide. What Helen Fisher, PhD did was put a name to different physical and emotional reactions we as humans experience while searching for our next partner

In 1977, Dorothy Tennov PhD, described some of the earlier findings of Helen Fisher by coining the term Limerence, "...being madly and overwhelmingly in love to the point of obsession." There is a feeling of euphoria, and a complete denial of any rational behavior. This person has been convinced that they have met their soul mate that someone who completes them. This person who is in limerence is truly incapable of logical thought, and is primarily concerned with pleasing their object of affection. A person who is in limerence will deny themselves, in some instances, to the point of incapacity.

If this occurs they find that they no longer have a desire to please their self, and will often loose sight of their self concept thereby fully embracing an unhealthy desire to continue this behavior. If their object of affection is narcissistic they will do whatever they can to continue the behavior as long as it suits them. However, once this attention is no longer suiting their needs they will withdraw and in this action will cause the person in limerence to become more forceful in their attentions. Having convinced their selves that all they need to do is fight for the continuance even if it leads to destructive behavior.

They may have friends, family mental health care provider, or even a professional psychic telling them that this is not a real relationship, and there is nothing that can be done to fix it, but they are convinced that their love interest actually wants them. The following is a list of ideals associated with the term soul mate. Take a moment to look over the list and see if you or someone you know may be saying these things about the person they are interested in:

• Someone who completes you
• Someone who accepts you no matter what.
• Someone who has the unique capacity to love you more fully than anyone else on the planet.
• Someone for whom you would not have to make major compromises.
• Someone with whom you have a deep connection that is not based on infatuation.
• Someone who is your greatest friend.
• Someone who you feel God has brought to you.

When looking for a partner many people seek out traits that have been listed above. They have been taught by multiple sources how they should feel and act when it comes to finding a partner. When initially they do find someone and they seem to have everything come together quickly and effortlessly they say yes, this person is the one.

In the beginning of the relationship there is a lot of contact, late night calls, early day excitement all things that seem wonderful just like Sex In The City. Then after a while the calls start to wane, the visits dwindle and then reality starts to edge in.

It’s a wonderful life when at first sweeps you off your feet and into bliss. What can possibly go wrong? When you loose yourself in the abandonment of love you also stand to loose more than your unhappiness you stand to loose yourself.

I can not begin to tell you how many times a client has come to me in tears completely beside themselves trying to figure out just where they went wrong when a relationship falls apart. And then they decide that they will do just about anything to make it work.

As a reader and a spiritual advisor I often find myself in the position of becoming a mentor as well. As long as the client has a clear head and is open to truly working on all areas of their life I can assist them in creating new habits that can prove to be more efficient in creating relationship bonds. The most important thing to learn when you are ready to face reality is: You are born being a whole individual. You were not made imperfect and that you are blessed simply because you breathe. Next if you are interested in seeking out someone else this person must be someone who is caring, compassionate, and gives you respect enough to be yourself.

You might say you are yourself when you are with someone and they still leave, or I just have to get away from them. You meet someone they are simply wonderful everything about them makes you want to yell on the highest mountain top I FINALLY FOUND SOMEONE! For days, weeks, even months you are on an emotional high and everything is perfect. Then you realize that friends are calling and saying hey where you been? You quit doing things you used to enjoy, and picked up a new routine of doing for your love interest. You stopped being you. This new someone has to remember that you had a life before they came in, and that for you to continue to be that same person they fell in love with you have to have your time too.

Many people ask me why they keep finding the same sorts of people to choose for a mate. Again it goes back to what you learned when you were younger, and the kinds of social situations you found yourself in as you were moving through your 20’s. How do you value your self worth? If you are in the mindset that you deserve peace, and consistency in all areas of your life then you most likely had a good example when you were younger. If however, your life was full of chaos and there was no consistency then you will most likely go through your life from relationship to relationship seeking peace, and finding only heartache and distrust.

Learning that this whole ideal of soul mates was initially formed to explain how people were formed as we are now is simply bizarre. Information is power and I am here to let you know that you can find that peace of mind along with a healthy relationship.

Part of this new perspective is to learn that there is no one person on this rock we call Earth that is just solely for you. You constantly evolve everything around you changes you. Even if you are agoraphobic you can still take in information by connecting to the internet and talking in chat rooms, or looking at social media. How you deal with this information can determine where you are in your personal life. If you expect to merely sit by and wait for something to happen you will end up severely disappointed.

What about praying and letting God bring this special someone to you? Prayer is extremely important to feeling secure and fulfilled to many individuals even those who come to me for advice. When someone says I have been praying and I have still not found my special someone. It is my opinion that God helps those who help themselves, and God is not going to do the hard work for you. I tell my clients who pray to whomever they feel guides them in their spiritual matters pray often, but do so with clarity.

If you are precise in what it is that you need, and what you are going to do to improve on your life then you will succeed. How do you create this success? You can create your future through the art of manifesting. Now, don’t go getting all wound up I don’t believe in just willy nilly think good thoughts and things happen. The art of manifesting ones future has a great deal to do with learning positive ways to handle life’s situations through physical, mental and spiritual work. It’s not that things will all the sudden become easier it’s that when you do things smarter you can create better results; thereby, creating your own road map to success.

Plato's Symposium: http://www.gutenberg.org/etext/1600

Edgar Cayce Soul mates: http://www.intuitive-connections.net/2003/book-soulmates.htm

Helen Fisher: http://www.helenfisher.com/

Dorothy Tennov PhD and Limerence: http://www.marriagehelper.com/soul_mate.php

*Author's Note: Thank you to everyone who is helping me get the bugs out of this chapter, and I sincerely hope that it gives you all hope and clarity to help you live your life more fully.

If you are interested in a reading with Jackie Chin call 330-824-1286

A Course in Psychic Awareness

STEP 1: THE ART OF OBSERVATION 

     Before you waste any time wondering if you have any psychic abilities, or whether you can actually develop them, let me clear up the issue by saying that you do have psychic abilities and you can easily develop them. Everyone has psychic abilities! The question is how you develop them.

     Would you believe that you can radically increase your psychic abilities by practicing for 5-10 minutes a day? All you need is pen and paper. Don't think about your psychic abilities as something "special" or "difficult to learn. Learning to use your psychic abilities is no more difficult than learning to bake a cake - you're just using different ingredients!

     Before we dive into instructions about how to increase your abilities, let's define what we mean by psychic abilities. When you are using psychic awareness you are extending beyond what is already in your psychic realm. Things that are beyond your five sense that of taste, touch, smell, hearing and sight. If you are able to access information from your spiritual center you can accomplish many extraordinary things. With these abilities you can gleam information that you could not possibly know about people, places and things. With practice you can even go to places and see things without even leaving your home, or office. that

     Here's a simple exercise that will help you develop your psychic abilities. With this exercise your goal is to practice using your Spirit abilities to access information that you can't access with your five senses. Here's how you do it:

1. Bring pen, paper and a watch or timer to a very public location that has lots of people. Fast food restaurants, airports or malls are good places to start.

2. Seat yourself in a comfortable location where you can easily write, observe people and see your timer or clock.

3. Pick a person to observe (you will need to observe him or her for 30 seconds). Set your timer for 30 seconds and start writing.

4. Write anything and everything that comes up about that person, whether you can directly observe it or not. It's easier to start by writing what you can observe about the person (such as hair color, clothing, activities and so forth). Don't think about what you are writing and don't allow yourself to pause. Don't worry about whether you're observations are correct or not. Write as much as you can and as fast as you can.

5. Once the 30 seconds is up, pick another person to observe, set your timer and start writing.

6. Observe 10 people during a span of 5 minutes.

To give you an example of what you might right, look at the paragraph below:

     Man, blond hair, jeans, has kids, mustache, kind, loves sports, likes water, has a brother, works outdoors, in tune with Nature, born in the West or has a connection to the West, nice tan, sneakers, talking with someone, talks with hand gestures, works well with hands, sensitive hands, sensitive nature, enjoys people, likes the color red, wears red a lot, brown eyes, around 40, jazz music, smiles a lot.

     You'll notice in the short description above that there are many descriptions that can be seen with the five senses - the color of his hair, the way he talks with his hands, the color of his eyes and his tan. In between, though, are descriptors that can't be seen with the five senses - that he has a brother, he is in tune with Nature, likes the color red and jazz music. Notice that I didn't write that he likes jazz music, plays jazz music or listens to jazz music. I just wrote "jazz music." There may be someone around him to plays jazz music or he may like to listen to jazz music. Those details didn't come up so I just wrote jazz music. Be sure to write whatever comes up - no editing!!

     It doesn't matter if any of your descriptions, especially those that are done with Spirit abilities, are actually correct. The goal is to practice accessing information with these abilities. The correctness of your observation will improve with time. Practice this exercise as often as you can - any time you are waiting for a bus, sitting at a restaurant or resting in a public setting. If you don't get out much, you can do the same exercise by turning the volume off your TV and observing the people on TV.

     You'll find that with practice you will develop the ability to simply look at people and know what they are like, what's going on in their lives and what is important to them. The more you practice, the better you'll get. The key is not to get attached to the correctness of what you right. The less you judge yourself the more correct your observations will become. Good luck!

What is a Clairvoyant?

I have often been asked what Clairvoyance actually means. The word Clairvoyance is often associated with psychic powers. It is actually a form of extra-sensory perception. The word is derived from two French words: clair: meaning clear and voyance: meaning visibility.
Clairvoyants are people with the ability to gain insight about persons, locations or physical events by seeing beyond the five senses. We have the inquirer ask specific questions that are relative to their current situation. When beginning to work with a client it is important to have those first questions in order to tap into their personal energy or view of the situation. I tell my clients that this is a way to focus on their particular situation. When asked this first set of questions I will look for something I call an event horizon. This is a place in time where there is extreme sadness, anger, peace or desire, and is the precursor to the present event.

During a reading it is also possible to have loved ones who are interested in connecting with the living to pass on information, or to just let someone know they made it over to the other side. There is not always a message sometimes it can be merely an image whereby I pass this on to the client. If there are specific questions for the deceased it is not always possible to get the answers, but the likelihood is good that you will get something. One must remember though that speaking with the deceased is not as easy as dialing 1-800-the-deceased. So keeping that in mind will help during your reading. If there is something of importance they will find a way to let you know.

Having reasonable expectations and, clear concise questions will help your reading flow with ease. If you are skeptical that’s ok, be respectful and patient you may be in for an interesting surprise. As with all my readings if you find that you are dissatisfied say so, and I will immediately refund. I like to be able to sleep at night and know that my days work was done in a proper manner with respect and dignity to your needs.

Finding Your Purpose in Life

How do you discover your real purpose in life? I’m not talking about your job, your daily responsibilities, or even your long-term goals. I mean the real reason why you’re here at all — the very reason you exist.


Perhaps you’re a rather nihilistic person who doesn’t believe you have a purpose and that life has no meaning. Doesn’t matter. Not believing that you have a purpose won’t prevent you from discovering it, just as a lack of belief in gravity won’t prevent you from tripping. All that a lack of belief will do is make it take longer, so if you’re one of those people, just change the number 20 in the title of this blog entry to 40 (or 60 if you’re really stubborn). Most likely though if you don’t believe you have a purpose, then you probably won’t believe what I’m saying anyway, but even so, what’s the risk of investing an hour just in case?

Here’s a story about Bruce Lee which sets the stage for this little exercise. A master martial artist asked Bruce to teach him everything Bruce knew about martial arts. Bruce held up two cups, both filled with liquid. “The first cup,” said Bruce, “represents all of your knowledge about martial arts. The second cup represents all of my knowledge about martial arts. If you want to fill your cup with my knowledge, you must first empty your cup of your knowledge.”

If you want to discover your true purpose in life, you must first empty your mind of all the false purposes you’ve been taught (including the idea that you may have no purpose at all).

So how to discover your purpose in life? While there are many ways to do this, some of them fairly involved, here is one of the simplest that anyone can do. The more open you are to this process, and the more you expect it to work, the faster it will work for you. But not being open to it or having doubts about it or thinking it’s an entirely idiotic and meaningless waste of time won’t prevent it from working as long as you stick with it — again, it will just take longer to converge.

Here’s what to do:

1. Take out a blank sheet of paper or open up a word processor where you can type (I prefer the latter because it’s faster).

2. Write at the top, “What is my true purpose in life?”

3. Write an answer (any answer) that pops into your head. It doesn’t have to be a complete sentence. A short phrase is fine.

4. Repeat step 3 until you write the answer that makes you cry. This is your purpose.

That’s it. It doesn’t matter if you’re a counselor or an engineer or a bodybuilder. To some people this exercise will make perfect sense. To others it will seem utterly stupid. Usually it takes 15-20 minutes to clear your head of all the clutter and the social conditioning about what you think your purpose in life is. The false answers will come from your mind and your memories. But when the true answer finally arrives, it will feel like it’s coming to you from a different source entirely.

For those who are very entrenched in low-awareness living, it will take a lot longer to get all the false answers out, possibly more than an hour. But if you persist, after 100 or 200 or maybe even 500 answers, you’ll be struck by the answer that causes you to surge with emotion, the answer that breaks you. If you’ve never done this, it may very well sound silly to you. So let it seem silly, and do it anyway.

As you go through this process, some of your answers will be very similar. You may even re-list previous answers. Then you might head off on a new tangent and generate 10-20 more answers along some other theme. And that’s fine. You can list whatever answer pops into your head as long as you just keep writing.

At some point during the process (typically after about 50-100 answers), you may want to quit and just can’t see it converging. You may feel the urge to get up and make an excuse to do something else. That’s normal. Push past this resistance, and just keep writing. The feeling of resistance will eventually pass.

You may also discover a few answers that seem to give you a mini-surge of emotion, but they don’t quite make you cry — they’re just a bit off. Highlight those answers as you go along, so you can come back to them to generate new permutations. Each reflects a piece of your purpose, but individually they aren’t complete. When you start getting these kinds of answers, it just means you’re getting warm. Keep going.

It’s important to do this alone and with no interruptions. If you’re a nihilist, then feel free to start with the answer, “I don’t have a purpose,” or “Life is meaningless,” and take it from there. If you keep at it, you’ll still eventually converge.

When I did this exercise, it took me about 25 minutes, and I reached my final answer at step 106. Partial pieces of the answer (mini-surges) appeared at steps 17, 39, and 53, and then the bulk of it fell into place and was refined through steps 100-106. I felt the feeling of resistance (wanting to get up and do something else, expecting the process to fail, feeling very impatient and even irritated) around steps 55-60. At step 80 I took a 2-minute break to close my eyes, relax, clear my mind, and to focus on the intention for the answer to come to me — this was helpful as the answers I received after this break began to have greater clarity.

Here was my final answer: to live consciously and courageously, to resonate with love and compassion, to awaken the great spirits within others, and to leave this world in peace.

When you find your own unique answer to the question of why you’re here, you will feel it resonate with you deeply. The words will seem to have a special energy to you, and you will feel that energy whenever you read them.

Discovering your purpose is the easy part. The hard part is keeping it with you on a daily basis and working on yourself to the point where you become that purpose.

If you’re inclined to ask why this little process works, just put that question aside until after you’ve successfully completed it. Once you’ve done that, you’ll probably have your own answer to why it works. Most likely if you ask 10 different people why this works (people who’ve successfully completed it), you’ll get 10 different answers, all filtered through their individual belief systems, and each will contain its own reflection of truth.

Obviously, this process won’t work if you quit before convergence. I’d guesstimate that 80-90% of people should achieve convergence in less than an hour. If you’re really entrenched in your beliefs and resistant to the process, maybe it will take you 5 sessions and 3 hours, but I suspect that such people will simply quit early (like within the first 15 minutes) or won’t even attempt it at all. But if you’re drawn to read this blog (and haven’t been inclined to ban it from your life yet), then it’s doubtful you fall into this group.

Give it a shot! At the very least, you’ll learn one of two things: your true purpose in life -or- that you should unsubscribe from this blog.

Psychic House Parties ( Ohio Trumbull County Area) and Private Room OnLine too...

Tired of the usual Tupperware or other potentially boring party? Try something fun and unique this time. Try a Home Psychic Party! This is a fun evening with you and your friends. Add a psychic entertainer and you have all the ingredients for a great time.


The evening starts with some light refreshments while everyone arrives. Once we have everybody in place there will be a brief demonstration, and explanation of the type of psychic reading everyone will receive along with a short time for question and answers regarding what they have just learned.

Individual readings will begin at this point which can vary from 15 minutes to 30 minutes in length. Your guests will love the evening and talk about it for a long time to come. Make a list of your friends and either call or send out invitations, informing them of the date and time.

What will all this fun cost? Individual readings will range from $15.00 for 15 minutes to $25.00 for a half hour. I ask for a minimum of 6 guests, and a maximum of 12. The hostess ALWAYS receives their reading free.

*****Are you interested in a Party, but want to have it on line?  I offer private on line room parties where your guest would be invited to the room via invitation.  Gather 4-6 guest and your reading is still free.  Write to ReadingsbyTiLite@aol.com for more information.

Developing Your Psychic Abilities

When you learn a new topic it also opens your social range, and allows you to discuss things which you have in common. Is the topic of psychic development for everyone? No, however, it can lead to many interesting paths. Where you obtain your information is extremely important. If you are fortunate enough to have someone in your immediate family to help you through the initial twists and turns of psychic awareness this is most recommended. There are a lot of people out there that claim to have psychic ability; however it is very important before you decide to pick someone to emulate that you first research who they are and what they have done for their community and their clients.

 If they are on the level there will be plenty of information, and perhaps even a method to contact and ask questions directly. There are many different types of psychics and their abilities are just as differing as there are types of spices on the planet. I will give a detailed list directly after this article so that you may find your particular area of interest. For now let’s get into some basis steps of obtaining information from spirit. It takes 21 days to either break a habit or create a new one. In the first 21 days it is recommended that you find a method of quieting your mind.

Just as there are many methods of cooking there are just as many when contemplating peace of mind. You may find that there are some religious aspects that can assist you with finding this peace, or you can try some new angles. Some find that prayer (whatever the religious choice) is comforting and stimulates the peace that is needed. There are those who find walking in a natural setting brings about serenity, and those who find listening to waterfalls, or running water from an indoor fountain seems to lull the mind into a quite bliss. Whatever you are most comfortable with use until you find something more suitable.

At first it is only recommended that you meditate, or pray for about 5-10 minutes if you are not used to doing this for a longer length of time. Everything in moderation so that you do not feel forced, or like you have failed if you have not reached your quiet goal time. That’s right set a goal for quiet time. Goal setting is very important to success, and since you are now taking on the goal of becoming more intoned with your spiritual side this is a perfect time to start setting goals. When you reach that point of serenity then what? Ok, so you have met your goal time for quieting your mind now it’s time for the next step. Becoming aware of what is around you.

Wait a minute I thought I was supposed to be quieting my mind; you want me to become aware of all the noise around me too? Much of the daily noise in your life is at some point white noise, or just simply background information. If you are used to a lot of noise such as children, your work place, social activities etc, then you have also learned to pretty much block out what you really don’t want to pay direct attention too. Allow thoughts to come and go freely as if washing in and out on a tide. You will eventually be able to train your mind to pay attention only to quiet time, and not be bothered by mundane daily activity.

If you feel the need you may focus on a question that you are seeking answers too, a single word or a tone to use as a tool for focusing. You may after a number of short sessions of between 10-20 minutes begin to see images, and perhaps even hear information. All of which is very normal. What do I do with the information once I get it? It is recommended that you keep a journal of your sessions for the entire 3 weeks you are working on your psychic journey.

If you are truly in tune with your ability you will start to see patterns. Ask yourself these questions when making your assessment on your session:

1. How did you feel? Your mind, body, soul impressions about the session.
2. Did you see information, hear it, or have a body impression?
3. What was the exact impression you were given?
4. Did you feel a presence in the room when you received the information?
5. Did you feel any sort of temperature change near you when you received this information?
 6. Was it a strong impression or weak?
7. Did this impression repeat itself 2 or 3 times?
8. Did you feel comfortable receiving the information?
 9. And most importantly do you want to continue doing the sessions?


Once you finish your session and writing in your journal you may want to take a walk in a natural setting, wash your hands in cool water, or take a shower. All of which will help you relax and come back into your daily life effective and informed.


*Authors note: Psychic work is not for everyone, but if you are finding that you are getting answers to questions, or able to help others seek out their own peace of mind then you are truly on your way to psychic development. If you find however, that you are not able to find your niche in the psychic world, do not fret you are born with special abilities, so do your best to find out where your heart sings.

Is My Child Psychic?

Do you live with a child who is having dreams that seem to take life in waking hours? Does your child tell you about who is calling before the phone rings? Have they ever mentioned loved ones who have crossed over giving them messages or stories from your past? Then you may be experiencing a very normal occurrence of child psychic awareness.


Children from a very young age as early as 2 can often sense energies that seem to baffle adults, and they do not have that need to suppress what they see or feel. However, many times these sensations can be quite scary, and they should be address with kit gloves. If you’re willing to speak with your child about their experience first and foremost do not give them leading questions.


Depending on their age and ability to speak their thoughts clearly allow them to come to you in what ever way they feel most comfortable. Asking leading questions or prying can make them feel like they are a victim, or feel like they are not normal. When they have a question or some information that they want to share it may come out in pictures allow them to have plenty of crayons and paper to express these visions. If they are verbal allow them to talk to you and listen with compassion, ask them how their experience has made them feel, or if they would like to talk to anyone else about it.


Many times they will tell you bits and pieces, and it may not sound or feel right to you, but to them it makes perfect sense. As a responsible parental can do is keep a journal of these events, and be mindful of things that seem to have a pattern. If the child is currently going through some emotional trauma such as divorce, death of a loved one, or medical situation it may be that they are experiencing stress/anxiety and the events will pass once they regain some sort of normalcy.


 Understanding the why of these events is just as important as dealing with the fact that they are happening in the first place. Once it has been established that your child is gaining information from a supernatural source it is important to find someone they are comfortable with to discuss what is happening. You are their first person of choice because they have come to you to share these visions. If you have someone you know that has previous experience in these matters it would be time to ask them if they would step in and assist with any questions the child or you may have.


You may also have a pastor or someone of faith who can help discern your child's information. Another resource which may or may not be readily available to you is a local ghost hunting chapter or paranormal research facility. Before you enlist services from a group first do your own research into their background. Many groups out there are very good, reliable and committed to paranormal investigations and research, but like with all things some are not so enlightened.


If nothing else listen to your child, do no blow them off or make them feel like they are performing. Do not ask them zillions of questions and make them feel like they are a freak. It will damage their personal and spiritual growth. Not everyone will respond well to a psychic child, and so they must be taught to not offer this information to strangers, or those who would seek out to manipulate them. Like anything else they must be shown stranger danger also in the psychic world.


If they are being pestered by a spirit they need to learn that they can say to that unwanted presence to leave them alone. Also, if they are truly gifted it is important to teach them how to protect themselves from unwanted energies, by learning positive energy work, blessings of their faith, and/or spiritual protection. I will be addressing these issues in further writings.


If you have a child who is currently experiencing paranormal activity I would like to hear from you. I have 6 children of my own and 4 of them I know for a fact are psychic kids. As a parent born with clairvoyant ability I have a unique approach to teaching children how to live with the psychic world.


Be Well in All Things, Jackie

How to Empower Yourself and Manifest your Future

Believe... and suddenly anything is attainable."...take steps towards your desire and allow the Universe to manifest it into your physical experiential reality in ways The Universe will take care of." The most important law of manifesting is knowing what you desire already exist. Dwelling on what you do not have is the main basis for stopping the process of manifestation. The more energy you give to things that you feel are negative the more you will push yourself into darkness. Understanding that you truly hold the keys to your success or your demise is the next most important thing to examine while in the process of manifesting your future. Let me show you how to break out of your mental, physical and spiritual prison, and shine the light of hope, compassion, consistency and joy for years to come.

Manifesting 101



Manifesting 101

In order to manifest that which will bring you fulfillment, joy, purpose and abundance, it is necessary to understand the steps that will allow such things to come into your life with purpose. Take a moment with open mind to view these steps to creating your new bountiful future.

Intentions: You must be fully aware of what it is that you really want. You must have a clear definition. You can not simply say I want change. You must be specific what kind of change it is that you seek. If you are not specific you may find that the change which occurs will be all towards a downward spiral. Freeing yourself to be able to say I want positive forward movement in my change will be an incredible empowerment tool for your future success.

Be Mindful: That old expression garbage in garbage out here comes to mind. If you continually take in negative thoughts, surround yourself with friends, or even family who continually tell you there is no way you can over come you will never amount to anything then guess what? You won't. If you take your intentions to another level, and say I intend to listen to new creative ways to bring success and peace of mind in both my personal and professional life; then you will start to break those old reckless cycles and move forward.

Show Gratitude: I can not stress enough how important it is for you to be thankful for your current situation. This time in your life has brought you to the steps of your greatest accomplishment yet; abundance, creativity, success and boundless positive energy that will push you forward. Once you have been to the very bottom there is no other place to go then up. Be thankful for your failures they will be your inspiration.

Allow Forgiveness: Showing compassion for what has brought you to this time in your life has great meaning. It is the life blood of all of the things in your past that have placed you in a sense of powerlessness, or success. Once you make that decision to forgive others where it is possible, or even proper, and then make that leap to forgive yourself, and find peace you will be on your way to experiencing who you are truly meant to be.

Honesty is paramount here seeking out that which causes you pain, however, is not always an easy task. This may require a professional to speak with one who is caring and understanding and can help teach you ways to deal with these personal issues.

(author note): There are real honest situations where forgiveness is not possible for you, or for the person involved; have respect and compassion to know the difference.

Take Action: Let the new positive thought and energy flow; do not impede forward movement no matter how small it may seem at first. All things are connected. Every time you made a decision; including those times when you really felt like you did not make any type of decision comes into play here. You must be willing to accept the things you have done, and be prepared to make new choices for the future. You are an active participant in your manifestation of your positive future.

Follow Through: Whether you take your first step, or you stumble keep moving don't quit!!! Know that you are blessed simply because you breathe. Believe in yourself for it will be your greatest asset, and your truest virtue. If you have made a decision to work this plan towards you future success then let me be the first to congratulate you, you have taken your first step towards abundance and peace of mind.

I will be writing on each of the sections which are vital to success on this path I do so hope that you will find it useful.

manifesting 101 series INTENTION

Declaring Your Intentions

An affirmation states that a goal is already happening. I’m not crazy about this because, often when we affirm something that is not yet real, the little voice in our head usually responds with “This isn’t true, this is BS…On the other hand, a declaration is not saying something is true, it’s saying we have an intention of doing or being something. This is a position the little voice can buy, because we’re not stating it’s true right now, but again, it’s an intention for us [with an eye towards] the future.     Harv Eker from Secrets of the Millionaire Mind

DECLARE YOUR INTENTION

How many times have you said to yourself I did it with the best of intention? And the next thing you know everything just simply falls apart. Intentions are necessary for forward movement, however, intention set out without proper planning and motivation can lead to failure. If you have something that you are intending to do you must understand why you are intending to do it. The why is the base of the intent it is the core of the matter. Doing something simply because you think it will change how someone feels about you is intention without merit for most times it matters not what you do, or say to the person you are trying to please. Doing it because you want to create a change within you and your life towards the positive is intention with merit; it will most always bring you joy and contentment.

Learning how to set an intention, or goal is the next step in growing towards making the right choices. There are short term goals and long term ones, and it is important to have a few of both. Why? Understanding where you have come from and where you are moving towards in terms of your bigger picture will give you more energy to want to keep creating positive change. Knowing that you have obtained a short term goal will give you the strength and conviction to say yes I can. When you create positive change in your life others will see this and they will either support you with open arms, or leave by the wayside. In many cases those who do leave were not really meant to be there in your life in the first place. There is sadness when you do eventually come to a point where people are leaving from your life; do not let this grief stay within your mind though it will hinder your growth.

Change can cause grief you are essentially going through a mini death. When change occurs old habits are left while new ones now take priority. How long should you grief? No one should tell you how long to continue grief, but there does come a time when you must lay that burden down in order to receive new joy and peace of mind. I am reminded of a Chinese proverb where a novice was confronted with terrible grief and the master asked the novice how long he was going to carry his burden. The novice replied, “Master do you not see how much pain I suffer?” The master then turned to the novice and said “Do you not see how much peace you are denying?” Take on your grief allow it to show itself and then ask yourself how long you want to keep denying yourself peace

Intention means purpose. What is your purpose today? Do you feel the need for change? Are there things in your life that you have been denying yourself that you can finally decide today to say I will work towards it with a positive decision towards change? Say this out loud yell it if you feel the need I will make a choice to stand up for myself and to create a new purpose. I intend to make this change today and then say out loud what that intention is exactly. If it is to quit a vice then state firmly what you will replace this vice with in order to fill the void that will inevitably be left.

Many times a vice such as over eating needs to be replaced with an action. Taking a walk, reading your bible, phoning a friend instead of taking a bite of something you know is not good for you is a good positive change towards ending such a vice. Remembering that nothing changes over night and that it takes 21 days to change this will help you push forward. Each time you make a better choice, and do not give into to your old ways you will be creating positive energy, and this energy will help push you to your goal.

What if the vice is another human being? Being involved in a bad relationship is one thing usually it takes care of itself by simply dissolving; you split up and start again. However, there are some relationships that are just truly toxic. Clients will talk about how much they love the person; and how they would simply be willing to do anything to get them back into their good graces. And each time they do “reconcile” within months, or less they are again broken and devastated that they are experience the same thing over again. What is said most by both men and women is I love them why would they do this to me? Love is compassionate it is not threatening, or abusive in any manner. Love does not destroy someone it adds to their joy of being alive. It does not say oh let me take you off that shelf I put you on and play with you for a while, then put you back until its convenient for me to stop by again.

If you find that you are in this sort of relationship I am here to tell you that this pattern will never change. How do you fix it? You don’t. Most likely you were raised to do the right thing all the time every time, and when you run into someone who you think has the same values, but later find out something else, and you try to bring them up to your level; you will be disappointed every time. Again this goes back to the value system that the person learned early in childhood, and or in their young adult life. If they do not understand that it is not morally correct to use a person and leave them in a puddle of despair without so much as a good-bye then they will never come up to your expectations of decency.

Those who recognize that there is no real relationship here and move on have made the best decision possible. On the other hand those who keep saying what did I do wrong, how can I fix this tell me what to do; those people are in a toxic relationship. They will resort to anything in order to get that person back into their life. Many times they will turn to those who work in the occult to bring about a love spell, or some other type of magic that binds the soul of their desire. These things never work out right, and in some instances they can lead to death. The words love spell seems harmless enough right? It seems like it’s just something fun that can take away the sting of a relationship gone amuck, but let me tell you it can be your worst nightmare come true. I have a lady friend I will call Marta who decided she wanted to purchase a love spell from a local woman because the man she wanted had decided to go back to his wife. The spell was produced and the man became intoxicated again with her; however it was to the point where she was so over whelmed by him that at one point she had declared him a stalker. She could not do anything to get away from him she was trapped in her life until she finally could not take anymore and moved out of state. The lesson here is that if you decide to bind another soul to yours consider Marta, and make a choice to walk the other way.

Finally, you must believe that you have what it takes inside to make changes. You must be convinced that yourself worth and your life situation no matter how bleak can be change even if it is only your thoughts that change first. You have an amazing capacity for creating, and for bringing about change everything you need to do that is inside of you. You have already started to make those new changes by taking in new information that is stimulating a desire for positive change now. Take some time today to write out a few short term goals and then at least one long term goal. Write out how you want to move forward with these goals, and remember write down specifically what you want that final goal to look like so that you can recognize when you have finally achieve that goal. What the mind can conceive the body can achieve.

Manifesting 101 Series Mindfulness

Mindfulness While washing the dishes one should only be washing the dishes, which means one should be completely aware of the fact that one is washing the dishes. At first, glance, that might seem a little silly. Why put so much stress on a simple thing? But that’s precisely the point. The fact that I am standing there and washing these bowls is a wondrous reality. I am completely myself, following my breath, conscious of my presence, and conscious of my thoughts and actions. There’s no way I can be tossed around mindlessly like a bottle slapped here and there on the waves.— The Miracle of Mindfulness by Thich Nhat Hanh. p.3 [ ISBN Amazon.com ]

The art of mindfulness is to be solely in the moment without judgment or anticipation of the next moment. As you are in the moment you are becoming increasingly aware of whom you are at your core. Becoming aware of your physical body or your spiritual body and simply focusing on the moment at hand. So many times we go through our daily lives rushing from one event to the next leaving little if no time at all to stop and become fully aware of what we are doing.

When we come to the point where we do become mindful there is a realization that we are in fact responsible for everything we have in our life. Taking self inventory of personal actions or non actions will bring out good traits and those traits that must be responsibly laid to rest. If you find that you are experiencing overly negative thoughts, or that your actions are hurtful to yourself or others then you must come to the realization that your behavior must change.It can be painful to come to the conclusion that you are causing yourself to suffer needlessly.

Becoming mindful can push feelings up from your root where you have to acknowledge them in the full light of day. Recognizing that you have created ways to shove these feelings deep within, but also have the same ability to create peace of mind through right actions and healthy mindfulness can bring about recovery of mind, body and soul.

Lessons to Being Mindful 1. One thing at a time. There is a Zen proverb which exemplifies mindfulness “when walking, walk. When eating, eat.” Experiencing one task at a time will help the mind stay on that task. If you find your mind wandering to the next task, or something from the past bring yourself back to the moment immediately by forcing yourself to concentrate only on what you are doing. This does take the beginner time to grasp at first. Remembering that it takes 21 days to make or break a habit will allow you to be more patient.

The rule here is to not take on more than one task at a time.2. Do not rush. Allowing yourself the time to do the task at hand slowly and deliberately will help you focus.3. Do not over task yourself. There are only so many hours in the day and trying to over compensate by getting more things done, does not mean that each task you take on will be done well, or mindfully. Learn how to delegate your task if necessary in order to take in fully each and every moment.

You must in the beginning of each day decide what you can and can now live with. If there are matters that must be tended to then they take priority and then if you have time left over then decide what can be done or what can wait till the next day. More times then not you will have to say no I do not have the desire to push myself into taking on to much.

There are some around you who will decide that you are changing and if they care about you they will enjoy the new you, if they are only around you because of what you can do for them, then they will tend to not be around as much as you say no more to them. In between each task allow yourself at least 5 minutes to bring yourself back to center and balance.

Having a fresh mind and present mindfulness will allow you to be fresh for the next task.4. Worry? Tell me did worry ever give you peace of mind? Can worry ever give you more minutes to your life? Can worry ever do anything but rob you of precious time? Of course the answer to all these questions is a resounding no, but even though we can intellectually say that there is no good grounds for worrying about an event; nonetheless it still happens.

The next time you have a nagging need to worry stop and place your right hand on your chest and take 3 good deep breathes through the nose and out the mouth. Why? It takes your conscious mind off your meddling worry and back the present moment.

Manifesting 101 series Gratitude

Gratitude "To educate yourself for the feeling of gratitude means to take nothing for granted, but to always seek out and value the kind that will stand behind the action. Nothing that is done for you is a matter of course. Everything originates in a will for the good, which is directed at you. Train yourself never to put off the word or action for the expression of gratitude." ~ Albert Schweitzer ~

 It is easy to see what we have in our lives, and yet feel that it is not enough. There is always someone who seems to have more than they need, or are careless with what they have. Do they really have everything they need? Gaining things for many seems to be the way of showing how important they are in society. It’s not enough to have a lot of things, but to have the biggest best things. In the end though all of those things will never once say thank you, I love you, you are kind, or you are important.

When you feel yourself stressing because you don’t have the latest thing, or the best of something else; remind yourself that it is deeply important to be thankful for what you have. Just as much as there are those who have exactly what you think you want there are those who have not nearly as much as you do. Also remind yourself that it is not things that show caring it is those who are your loved ones and even those who you just meet in your daily life.

One of the most important lessons in abundance is to give thanks for your current situation. Many times what you are going through is not something that someone else has not already been through themselves. However, when it is happening to you directly you feel like you are alone and that no one understands. In these hours it is important for you to take a few steps back and be thankful for the unrest you feel now will be a stepping stone towards your future.When life gets you down, when you’re hurt, angry, confused or frustrated take a moment to stop place your right hand over your heart, take 3 deep breathes in through the nose and out through the mouth, and search for something to be grateful for.

 It can be anything your family, health, job, roof over your head, the fact that you know you will have a next meal, your friends, anything that brings you immediate comfort.When someone acts unkind towards you remember you have those who care for you, take that experience and use it to be mindful of patience and understanding. When a storm comes and makes a mess of the trees in your yard, or an animal tears up your trash because there is too much sticking out of the garbage can, be grateful and think on those who are homeless.

When you are angry about the hours you have for your job show gratitude for having that job as currently there are since 2001 well over 17 million people who are jobless. When there is suffering anywhere in the world be thankful that you live in a country where you have your freedom of choice.Think on these things Keep a journal of all things you are thankful for in your life. At first it may not be much to write down, but as you go through the 21 days of creating a new habit you will no doubt have many more.Understand that you have free will.

You can choose to make an event more or less stressful. Your attitude about how you perceive the situation will either create peace, or more of the same suffering you have gone through in the past. Do not continue to go to a dry well expecting clean drinking water it will not happen. Change through experience and perspective will be the drive you need to freely make healthy and proper decisions.Realize jealousy has no place in creating peace of mind. Jealousy will only fuel desire to do the things that take you further away from your center, and create only bitterness.

Being grateful for what you have in your life now truly happy this will help guide you to peace and a desire to help others less fortunate. Creating new bonds allowing people to grow out of your kindness this will foster non jealous behavior.Be thankful that you don't already have everything you desire. If you did, what would there be to look forward to? Be thankful when you don't know something for it gives you the opportunity to learn. Be thankful for the difficult times. It is during those times you grow. Be thankful for your limitations. They give you opportunities for improvement. Be thankful for each new challenge.

These will build your strength and character. Be thankful for your mistakes. They will teach you valuable lessons. Be thankful when you're tired and weary. This will mean you've made a difference. It is easy to be thankful for the good things. A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who realize thankfulness for the setbacks. GRATITUDE can turn a negative into a positive. Find a way to be thankful for your troubles and they can become your blessings. ~Author Unknown~

Manifesting 101 series Forgiveness

Forgiveness If I cannot forgive myself for all the blunders that I have made over the years, then how can I proceed? How can I ever Dream perfection-dreams? Move, I must, forward. Fly, I must, upward. Dive, I must, inward, to be once more what I truly am and shall forever remain." ~ Sri Chinmoy~

We are taught in youth to say we are sorry for things we say and do, but what mostly happens is that we just glare at the person, and say sorry as if we are cursing them with our very breath. In youth we do not fully comprehend the amount of pain that words or actions can cause. We must be taught that the sharpest sword of all is our tongue. Many times we lash out in anger because we feel were are not heard, no one cares so why bother to be compassionate, or even civil.

Where there is no guide to show us what is proper we can tend to go from wrong speech to wrong actions of hitting, and other forms of abuse.If you have been on the receiving end of such hatred then you know it can be life changing. The more pain that is placed on you the more you wish to hide it out of sight. It is in that pain that you will lash out in some form or another. You will find a way to try and make all of that pain disappear. Unfortunately much of the ways you will try will be self destructive.

This self destructive behavior can take the form of, but is not limited to: changing food intake, drugging, drinking, acting out in a sexual manner, unsavory friends, and cutting. All of these behaviors are serious and never should be underestimated at the amount of long term damage they can cause. If you are experiencing any of these actions tell someone immediately. A loved one, a priest, a friend, sometimes even a total stranger.

Take action stand up and say this far and no further can I carry this burden alone.Many wonder if the person who creates the painful action even cares. I am here to tell you that the pain of another is not felt generally by the giver of the physical or mental abuse. The person who doles out the painful action is not trying to understand how deeply the words or the strike hurts the individual. They are self absorbed and unable to deeply feel anything. If they were able to understand, or have compassion then they would know what they were doing was deeply wrong.

You must understand that you are not there in that situation to change them. You are only responsible for your actions and what you do next to help yourself become removed from that which causes you harm.Once you have managed to get to the core of what is causing your suffering you must come to terms with it; how long this process takes is based on individual choice, and experience. Realizing that you can break free of the internal prison you have made for yourself, and learn healthy ways of dealing with stress.

There is one more thing to consider here when you are working through past or present pains; it is the nagging need to understand why someone would hurt you in the first place. A lot of times people who are the close to you will be the ones to hurt you the deepest. If a person loves another how could they do this terrible thing? Many times that answer never comes to light. Again if a person can easily hurt another they are not thinking about anyone, but themselves.

You may never fully understand the root of the problem, but you can change how you deal with it in the next moment.“When you forgive somebody who has wronged you, you’re spared the dismal corrosion of bitterness and wounded pride. For both parties, forgiveness means the freedom again to be at peace inside their own skins and to be glad in each others’ presence."~Fredrick Buechner~

Author Final Note: It is important to know that it is not always the right thing to do to forgive someone who has hurt you, in this case what you can do is forgive yourself for not saying something sooner, or for not being able to take action as it was happening. You are doing something now about it that is what is most important.

Manifesting 101 series Take Action

Taking Action

Once you have learned how to gather your thoughts become mindful of what your intentions are and walk through the path of forgiveness the next step is to take control of your life by changing how you think and re-act.

Action Steps Set both short term and long term goals. Put into place a plan for success in fulfilling these goals.Realize that there will be set backs, and they are a natural part of growth. Use these set backs as learning tools. Remove yourself from negative thinkers these people will never support your growth, and will always find reasons why you can’t succeed.Believe in yourself. What ever the mind can conceive you will achieve.

Think bigger than what you have now. If you train your mind into thinking on successful outcomes you will allow yourself to meet any goal. Have an idea of success. You are only limited by your own thought. Positive Mental Challenges Never say it’s impossible. Never let a set back keep you off your target goal. Never allow lack of knowledge to stop you.

Seek out those who have done whatever it is you are lacking at the time. Never let fear of failure force you into I can’t mentality. Never take an idea and say it’s useless until you have tried all your options. Then try again. Remove yourself out of that box of frustration you have been living in take a step out into the light of reason. Remember always SUCCESS IS RIGHT AROUND THE CORNER. Food for your mind and

SoulCourage is the discovery that you may not win, and trying when you know you can loose. Courage does not always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying “I will try again tomorrow.” There are no failures- Just experiences and your reactions to them. Anyone can give up it’s the easiest thing to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart; that is true strength. You are the embodiment of the information you choose to accept and act upon. To change your circumstance you need to change your thinking and subsequent actions. A true friend sees the good in everything, and brings out the best in the worst of things. If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.

Man can live about forty days without food, about 3 days without water, about 8 minutes without air, but only 1 second without hope. Have the courage to say no. Have the courage to face the truth. Do the right thing because it’s right. These are the magic keys to living your life with integrity.

A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out. Time goes by so fast and people go in and out of your life. You must never miss the opportunity to tell these people how much they mean to you. When it is obvious that the goals can not be reached, don’t adjust the goal, adjust the action steps. It is difficult to inspire others to accomplish what you have not been willing to try.

People come into your life and people leave it. You just have to trust that life has a road mapped out for you. Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened. Happy are those who dream dreams and are ready to pay the price to make them come true. The secret of health for both mind and body is not to morn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.

All your life you are told the things you can not do. All your life they will say you’re not good enough or strong enough or talented enough; they will say you’re the wrong height, or the wrong weight or the wrong type to play this or be this or achieve this. They will tell you no, a thousand times no, until all the no’s become meaningless. All your life they will tell you no, quite firmly and very quickly, and then you will tell them YES!!!

Manifesting 101 series Follow Through

Follow Through ""Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Choose your words, for they become actions. Understand your actions, for they become habits. Study your habits, for they will become your character. Develop your character, for it becomes your destiny." --Anonymous"

Getting excited about changing your future and learning the techniques to handle things with mindfulness and grace can stir a lot of high energy. This excitement can carry you through a vital time in your life, but it is after the newness wears off that it can get difficult, and the temptation to revert to old habits can come back to surface.

What do you do when you know that you need to keep moving forward, but find yourself doubting that things will ever change? Every day, you have got to read, listen to audio programs, talk with people who are on the same path as you are, and surround yourself with things that energize you. Methods for Maintaining a Positive Attitude Choose your thoughts carefully.

You have the power to control what you are thinking. Realize that you can be happy right now doing whatever it is that you are doing. It all comes down to changing the way you think. Read something positive daily. If you are constantly reading about death and murder, your outlook could be influenced negatively. Try reading something positive for 15 to 30 minutes a day so that your mind is anchored in positive thought. Affirm your potential each day.

Make a list of 10 positive things you can say about you, and repeat them every morning. Repeat thoughts like "Success is in me," or "I was born for greatness." You can also have a motivational quote of the day sent to you from sites such as http://www.motivationalquotes.com/ Limit the time you spend around negative people. Try to associate with positive people. Negative people can have toxic attitudes and try to make you think that your ideas are undoable. Combat this by surrounding yourself with people who have the attitude of "I can" and "I will."