Declaring Your Intentions
An affirmation states that a goal is already happening. I’m not crazy about this because, often when we affirm something that is not yet real, the little voice in our head usually responds with “This isn’t true, this is BS…On the other hand, a declaration is not saying something is true, it’s saying we have an intention of doing or being something. This is a position the little voice can buy, because we’re not stating it’s true right now, but again, it’s an intention for us [with an eye towards] the future. Harv Eker from Secrets of the Millionaire Mind
DECLARE YOUR INTENTION
How many times have you said to yourself I did it with the best of intention? And the next thing you know everything just simply falls apart. Intentions are necessary for forward movement, however, intention set out without proper planning and motivation can lead to failure. If you have something that you are intending to do you must understand why you are intending to do it. The why is the base of the intent it is the core of the matter. Doing something simply because you think it will change how someone feels about you is intention without merit for most times it matters not what you do, or say to the person you are trying to please. Doing it because you want to create a change within you and your life towards the positive is intention with merit; it will most always bring you joy and contentment.
Learning how to set an intention, or goal is the next step in growing towards making the right choices. There are short term goals and long term ones, and it is important to have a few of both. Why? Understanding where you have come from and where you are moving towards in terms of your bigger picture will give you more energy to want to keep creating positive change. Knowing that you have obtained a short term goal will give you the strength and conviction to say yes I can. When you create positive change in your life others will see this and they will either support you with open arms, or leave by the wayside. In many cases those who do leave were not really meant to be there in your life in the first place. There is sadness when you do eventually come to a point where people are leaving from your life; do not let this grief stay within your mind though it will hinder your growth.
Change can cause grief you are essentially going through a mini death. When change occurs old habits are left while new ones now take priority. How long should you grief? No one should tell you how long to continue grief, but there does come a time when you must lay that burden down in order to receive new joy and peace of mind. I am reminded of a Chinese proverb where a novice was confronted with terrible grief and the master asked the novice how long he was going to carry his burden. The novice replied, “Master do you not see how much pain I suffer?” The master then turned to the novice and said “Do you not see how much peace you are denying?” Take on your grief allow it to show itself and then ask yourself how long you want to keep denying yourself peace
Intention means purpose. What is your purpose today? Do you feel the need for change? Are there things in your life that you have been denying yourself that you can finally decide today to say I will work towards it with a positive decision towards change? Say this out loud yell it if you feel the need I will make a choice to stand up for myself and to create a new purpose. I intend to make this change today and then say out loud what that intention is exactly. If it is to quit a vice then state firmly what you will replace this vice with in order to fill the void that will inevitably be left.
Many times a vice such as over eating needs to be replaced with an action. Taking a walk, reading your bible, phoning a friend instead of taking a bite of something you know is not good for you is a good positive change towards ending such a vice. Remembering that nothing changes over night and that it takes 21 days to change this will help you push forward. Each time you make a better choice, and do not give into to your old ways you will be creating positive energy, and this energy will help push you to your goal.
What if the vice is another human being? Being involved in a bad relationship is one thing usually it takes care of itself by simply dissolving; you split up and start again. However, there are some relationships that are just truly toxic. Clients will talk about how much they love the person; and how they would simply be willing to do anything to get them back into their good graces. And each time they do “reconcile” within months, or less they are again broken and devastated that they are experience the same thing over again. What is said most by both men and women is I love them why would they do this to me? Love is compassionate it is not threatening, or abusive in any manner. Love does not destroy someone it adds to their joy of being alive. It does not say oh let me take you off that shelf I put you on and play with you for a while, then put you back until its convenient for me to stop by again.
If you find that you are in this sort of relationship I am here to tell you that this pattern will never change. How do you fix it? You don’t. Most likely you were raised to do the right thing all the time every time, and when you run into someone who you think has the same values, but later find out something else, and you try to bring them up to your level; you will be disappointed every time. Again this goes back to the value system that the person learned early in childhood, and or in their young adult life. If they do not understand that it is not morally correct to use a person and leave them in a puddle of despair without so much as a good-bye then they will never come up to your expectations of decency.
Those who recognize that there is no real relationship here and move on have made the best decision possible. On the other hand those who keep saying what did I do wrong, how can I fix this tell me what to do; those people are in a toxic relationship. They will resort to anything in order to get that person back into their life. Many times they will turn to those who work in the occult to bring about a love spell, or some other type of magic that binds the soul of their desire. These things never work out right, and in some instances they can lead to death. The words love spell seems harmless enough right? It seems like it’s just something fun that can take away the sting of a relationship gone amuck, but let me tell you it can be your worst nightmare come true. I have a lady friend I will call Marta who decided she wanted to purchase a love spell from a local woman because the man she wanted had decided to go back to his wife. The spell was produced and the man became intoxicated again with her; however it was to the point where she was so over whelmed by him that at one point she had declared him a stalker. She could not do anything to get away from him she was trapped in her life until she finally could not take anymore and moved out of state. The lesson here is that if you decide to bind another soul to yours consider Marta, and make a choice to walk the other way.
Finally, you must believe that you have what it takes inside to make changes. You must be convinced that yourself worth and your life situation no matter how bleak can be change even if it is only your thoughts that change first. You have an amazing capacity for creating, and for bringing about change everything you need to do that is inside of you. You have already started to make those new changes by taking in new information that is stimulating a desire for positive change now. Take some time today to write out a few short term goals and then at least one long term goal. Write out how you want to move forward with these goals, and remember write down specifically what you want that final goal to look like so that you can recognize when you have finally achieve that goal. What the mind can conceive the body can achieve.